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  • Writer's pictureLital Gottlieb

Confessions of a Stylish Mom: Finding Myself Between Lipstick and Laundry!

Discover why fashion and beauty matter more than ever in motherhood and how we can navigate the fine line between self-care and the societal "terror of beauty.

Feburary 27th, 2024

Blog post for stay at fashion moms

So, I recently had this eye-opener at a lecture on feminism, diving into something they called the "terror of beauty." Yep, it sounds just as intense as it is. Basically, it's all about the crazy pressure us ladies face to hit those supermodel beauty marks. Spoiler alert: most are about as realistic as a toddler eating veggies without a side-eye. This whole concept really got me thinking, especially about the why behind my own beauty and fashion routines. Is it all just to dodge judgment, or is there more to it?

Growing up, I was that girl who lived for playing dress-up. My grandma Bertha (may she rest in peace), along with my aunts and mom, were like the OG fashion icons for me. They had this knack for looking effortlessly chic, whether it was a quick grocery run or a casual day at the park. I remember watching them get ready, totally mesmerized. To me, it was more than just getting dolled up; it was like a sacred ritual, full of excitement and grace. So, when this lecture smacked me with the "terror of beauty," I won't lie, it kinda shook me. But, it also lit a spark of curiosity.

After some good old self-reflection, the answer hit me. It's really about why I'm into this whole beauty and fashion gig. And here's the deal: it's for me. I'm all about embracing that feeling of femininity and the confidence that comes with feeling good in my skin. It's not about bowing down to some invisible beauty standard. Heck, I've rocked the pedicure chair with my winter leg fur on full display more times than I can count, and you know what? It doesn't bother me one bit. Aging gracefully? Bring it on. I'm doing things my way, not because I'm supposed to but because it makes me happy.

But let's get real for a sec. The "terror of beauty" is a thing, and it's tough watching people you love get caught up in it, feeling like they have to meet these impossible standards. It's a reminder that there's a thin line between doing you and doing too much for the wrong reasons.

Here's what I've learned:

Fashion and Beauty as Acts of Self-Care

Treating ourselves to a beauty routine or curating our wardrobe isn't vain; it's a form of self-care that nourishes our mental health. It's a moment of tranquility in the bustling day of a mom, a reminder that amidst the roles we juggle, we are still ourselves—worthy of our own time and attention.

The Choice is Ours

Deciding to wear that dress or apply that lipstick should come from a place of joy, not obligation. It's about dressing for the day you want to have, whether that means comfort in yoga pants or the power of a well-tailored suit. The key is choice, free from the weight of expectation.

Empowerment through Individuality

Our style is a language, a way to communicate who we are without saying a word. It's about celebrating individuality and the unique journey each of us is on. Let's teach our children the beauty of diversity in appearance, fostering confidence in them to be true to themselves.

Making Fashion and Beauty Work for You (Yes, Even as a Busy Mom)

Let's talk about how fashion and beauty aren't just about looking good; they're about feeling good, too. In the chaos of motherhood, carving out time for these things can be a mini-vacation for your soul. But it's crucial to keep it real and make sure it's more about self-care than succumbing to pressure.

Tips for Keeping It Real with Fashion and Beauty:

Ask Yourself Why: Before diving into the latest beauty trend, ask yourself if it's really for you. If it's not making you smile, skip it.

  • Keep It Simple, Mama: Find routines that fit your life. Your beauty routine shouldn't feel like a second job.

  • Be Okay with Off Days: Some days, the best I can do is a messy bun and yesterday's jeans. And that's 100% okay.

  • Inspiration Over Comparison: Let's look for inspo that makes us feel good, not for perfection that makes us feel less.

So, here's the thing: beauty and fashion can totally be part of our wellness toolkit, even in the wild world of motherhood. It's about finding that sweet spot where doing your thing makes you feel like the queen you are, without falling into the trap of the "terror of beauty." Let's celebrate our unique styles, on our terms, and remember that at the end of the day, it's all about feeling good in our skin. Here's to us, moms, rocking our beauty and fashion game, one day at a

Wishing you glam and grace,

Lital ❤️

Founder & Chief Fashionista,

The Fashion Mission


Have a Burning Fashion or Beauty Question?

Throughout my journey in fashion, beauty, and motherhood, I've encountered a myriad of questions, dilemmas, and of course, delightful victories. And I'm sure your journey has been just as eventful! So, why not share and solve them together? Whether you're wondering which shoes pair best with that dress, how to swiftly apply the perfect winged eyeliner, or simple ways to add a dash of 'chic' to your everyday mom-look, this is the place to ask.

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Portrait photo of mother and advocate, Lital, who is the Founder of The Fashion Mission

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